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Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl
I love all the input ! Thank you so much 
For me, crying was a weakness. I'm not sure if I was brought up that way to be honest. I think as I grew older I came to a conclusion that being strong means showing no fears or emotions, so when I do feel them I try my hardest to think of other things or distract myself. When I feel extremely low I cry a lot, alone. With T, it's a whole different story. Sometimes my T will say things like "Wow you're really brave! But doesn't it bother you a little" and I would say something like "It does bother me but I can handle it" when in reality I can't. So I'm trying to force myself to change that ideology I have. Hopefully it opens new doors for me.
Again thank you all for your great responses. Makes me feel a bit better about the whole not crying thing. |
Crying has always felt like a weakness for me as well. Growing up I was not allowed to cry and was told I was weak and it was not safe to cry. My therapist has showed me that it is safe to cry with her, that its a sign I have been strong for to long and was so accepting of me. Now she has seen everything about me. I feel like it has changed our relationship and now we are closer and our connection is deeper.
I hope you can feel safe enough to cry but if you don't want to or it doesn't happen then its ok. Its whatever you feel comfortable with.