Hi everyone, I am 14 months post Divorce with parenting orders in place. Basically, I left him after a decade together because he became emotionally abusive after our daughter was born and had very little interest in being a father.

Here's my issue. My ex, who I later found out had a double life (a mistress for 1 year), would not keep up with our verbal visitation agreement and missed months at a time, filed for 50/50 physical care of our child with his new fiancé (the mistress).

The court process was long, emotionally and financially draining. It ruined me financially but I was ordered primary custody.

Our parenting orders are now 14 months old but my ex is not keeping to them, nor co-parenting with me. He ignores me when I try to discuss parenting matters, both face to face and over email. Sometimes he will send anger fuelled emails in return.

I don't understand why someone would file for joint physical custody, spend a ridiculous amount of money on legal fees and stretch the court process out 2 years, but still act like an irresponsible parent after the papers are sealed.

My daughter is suffering and refusing to see her father, but I still make her go (as per orders), I feel terrible and want to support her through this but its difficult when her father wont discuss anything with me. He even refuses to allow her to go to counselling. I don't understand his motive?

I appreciate any opinions and insight.