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Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress
Ok I know the answer to all these kinds of threads are "talk to your T about it" but no way am I'm gonna ask T about this because I know I'm being ridiculous. I JUST need to get this out of my head, so here it is.
My Therapist often wears a necklace with a pendant. I've often notice her holding or playing with it during our sessions. Nothing distracting -just that unconscious thing people do sometimes when they're listening to someone. I rather like it when she does this. I guess I find it kind of comforting for some reason. If I were totally honest, I guess it kind of turns me on but I've never felt like it was distracting nor do I ever stare or barely look up when I catch this out of the corner of my eye. It's just something I've noticed .
She was wearing it again last time and I barely noticed it until, for some reason, she end up taking it off mid-session. Like it was annoying her. Later, I am thinking.. our session was at the end of the day. We had twenty minutes left. Like, how did her necklace suddenly become bothersome right then and there? Was it really that heavy after wearing all day?
Or did she realize she was doing something that drew attention to her- specifically her neck and chest? i.e., was I that obvious? Did she get self-conscious about her own mannerisms?
>>> I know I'm over-analyzing and projecting but here I am <<<< 
I also want to open this up to anyone else's experience with their T's body language and little things you notice that are probably nothing... |
All things we do with our bodies is body language. I skimmed a book from the library, "What Every Body is Saying" by an ex-FBI agent, Joe Navarro, about body language because I wanted to know what my T was saying when he crossed his legs a certain way. Found out when his left knee is pointing toward me, he's keeping me at a distance. Women fidget with necklaces when they are uncomfortable or nervous (I think), or will place a hand to their throat or chest. I'm sure I could find a more comprehensive book/article on body language, but this one was fairly short and to the point. You might try Googling "body language" and see what you find online.
My guess is that your T was saying something, but I also subscribe to the belief that sometimes a thing is just a thing and there's no other meaning to it. I wouldn't fret too much about it...we all do things we don't realize we're doing.
