Sounds like you have learned a lot.
I'm in a sexless marriage, too. My choice. It has been many years now. I feel guilty but guilt doesn't change the lack of desire. My husband has accepted things the way they are even though he lets me know that he would be interested if I had any interest.
You are not alone in your misery. You sound wise though. Try not to take it personally.
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