I felt the same way about my brother when we were teenage / college age. Now he is doing much better than i am, is married with children, blah blah blah. Life is still harder for women than for men. He didnt have to take time off work to have a baby! He probably has the same anxiety you have, he just doesnt talk about it. Dont slow yourself down to make him or the family feel better - i did and it was a mistake. Just do what you need to do.

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