I'm new at psychcentral, so sorry if this does not come out right.

I'm a guy who used to cheat on his first wife a lot. She was too trusting. My 2nd wife (I'm still happily married), keeps me on a short leash. She has to the password to my phone and she usually knows where I am and what I'm doing. When you trust someone completely, it gives them too much freedom and it gives the impression that you don't care. Your gut feel is telling you to take the time to set appropriate boundaries. Trust your instincts.