The main thing is for you to know yourself. What do you want out of the relationship & make sure the relationship is what you want it to be before ever having sex.

Yes, sex can be just a recreational thing, but since you are a virgin, is sounds like you put much more value on sex than that.

For me, it never was an important part of any relationship & love was the most important part....love not being sex, but being the interconnection of thoughts, caring, & pretty much being completely compatible without the sex before that ever could be an option.

When you know yourself & your values, you will know when the time is right. You won't have to question yourself.

Debbie