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Originally Posted by Andy T
Hi,
I'm new to this site and am looking for support in learning to improve my behaviour in my marriage. To put it succinctly at this point. I've been passive-aggressive in many ways, have had temper tantrums for the past three years (last one was a couple of months ago), and have lied repeatedly.
It's been a struggle to understand the core issue behind all this but I believe that it is narcissistic aggression - I want to be in a superior position whereby my wife pampers my ego and is never critical otherwise I want to punish her in all the ways I've mentioned.
Does this pattern resonate with anyone here? I'd like to converse with others who have or had similar problems.
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I've had too many problems to count. Yes, you're in the right place and doing the right thing to talk about how you feel inside. My first marriage ended in shambles. My second marriage is going strong after 23 years. I'm here because I have problems too, so I'm surely not a "holier than thou" kind of person. But I can say that the first step to fixing things is acknowledging you have something you need to fix. Congrats!