If this has been discussed elsewhere, thanks in advance for pointing me to the thread!

After many years of isolating myself, I have finally made one good friend, and several acquaintance-level friends (eg, smile with, share some laughs, not really anything deep discussed, just friendly banter).

I did briefly discuss my bipolar w/the good friend - it helped to explain the "mania writing checks my depression can't cash" behavior (ideas and plans that I cannot always follow through with). Just quick sketch of how it affects my work, socializing.

I am on some great meds, but stress can toss me out of whack.

How much information should a friend be given about my mental illness?

What is appropriate behavior when I am manic/depressed -
do I honor plans made no matter how I am feeling?

Do I go through with ideas that seemed doable during mania that might not be entirely possible when I sober up?

Do you tell someone if you are hallucinating? Having a flashback?

Do you share about depression?

I basically try to handle my own issues privately. I might mention I am tired/have insomnia to explain quietness. I don't know the proper balance. I guess I figure everyone has something they are dealing with and (to echo an earlier post), you never know what personal struggles others deal with at home. I don't want to add to my friends burdens, or make her feel she has to help me get my life together.

Sometimes I slip up (especially when manic!) and get a little too silly, or energetic, or irritated, etc. I am trying to keep track of my moods, meds, etc via daily spreadsheet to help me refocus every day and stay on proper track.

Sorry if this sounds strange, but I have always had some problems with close relationships. Either I'm too "surface" and people say I seem impersonal, or I give TMI.

I want to preserve this friendship, so any advice you might give, or experiences you would share, I would greatly appreciate!