I think we get used to nothing working to help us sleep & psych ourselves out. So more anxiety can build before you take the med. thoughts are powerful things. Biologically yes your brains going a bit haywire & you can't just think good thoughts to get out of it. But the subtle stuff you say can have a helpful effect. I read a study proving that telling yourself you rested well improves people's energy level in the morning, so I try to do that now.
I may likely be misunderstanding but is the loop with the Valium about it may not work & then there'd be no relief for the night? Also not sure what you mean go clean?
It's ok to tell me if I'm being too nosey, just wanna help. I'm sittin here awake too.

Oh sorry haha go clean house. Not go clean off Valium. Lord I'm easily confused lately.