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Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress
Time is limited and expensive in session. So Beyond basic courtesy, a T's Self disclosure should be limited and only relevant to the topic at hand, i.e. YOU. A therapist should never be telling you stories or any personal anecdotes that make you focus on the Therapist. It should only be used as a tool to help you deal with your own stuff.
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Never is a really big and absolute word. This may be true for you and what you need. For me, I appreciate those moments when we can get out of my head and issues and just talk about that movie that just came out or the dog he's adopting next week. It doesn't take up much time; I don't mind the 3 or 4 minutes that we might chat. It builds a rapport and is probably a strong reason why I really don't have transference or boundary issues concerning him -- he isn't a mystery to me. I don't have that temptation to go snooping around in his wife's best friend's cousin's FB page to find out more (just being silly there, sort of). I appreciate the simple friendly moments we have that have absolutely no purpose except to just be friendly. We all like different styles with our therapists; I think that's okay personally.