Wow, I don't even know what to say except I'm really sorry you're being treated like shyt by someone you love.


Your pain is evident in your post.


I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt and think the alcohol is what's driving her abusive nature, so AA would be my first suggestion....



(Ordinarily as a victim of a previous abusive partner I would just type "RUN" because there's never an excuse for abuse)
But I can see how much you want your marriage to work...

To be honest I doubt your wife will admit she has a problem, so finding her help is a moot point if she's unwilling to make use of it.

Maybe marriage counseling is a more viable option.

Sorry I'm not much help, but couldn't just ignore your post.