It's a life lost & feeling grief is normal. We all make some decisions we end up regretting especially when we think it's our only option & feel pushed because of circumstances.

My mom had an abortion when I was 5....way back in 1958. She was just pregnant & came down with the German measles. Her MD suggested the abortion because it was known that German measles caused birth defects in the 1st trimester & they had no money or good insurance for any medical help that might be necessary. My parents put a lot of thought into their decision & even talked with their pastor.

Even with all the thinking put into it my parents felt the loss. My mom never really brought it up until the last hospitalization she had with her cancer. She not only kept asking ME when she she was going to get well but she also needed my assurance that NO God doesn't punish people with cancer for having an abortion. How sad...50 years later that thought was still haunting in her mind though she was able to understand that is not how God works & forgiveness & understanding is Gods way & we need to hold it for ourselves.

I was getting me degree & 1 1/2 years after being married I ended up pregnant. I had said before marriage I didn't want kids & NOTHING was getting in the way of my degree....I made that CLEAR before the wedding. So the first thing my H said when I got pregnant was that I could just take off & go back & get my degree when the kid got older. I was so angry at his response after what I had mde clear before the wedding....I kicked him out of the apartment & was going to schedule an abortion mostly out of anger at him for what he said....I would get EVEN. Well, my parents offered to take care of the baby so I could get my degrees& have my computer career...so thinking it through rationally decided NOT to have the abortion. Glad I didn't have to make that choice. I know now that I do lean toward adoption....but we make our choices at the time given were we are at the time