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Originally Posted by Dinah9517
Hi Marilyn2016. Good to meet you. I'm @ the Bar @ least once a day but my Bar usually has a Judge sitting behind it! Apologies for the "iffy" joke.
I think your situation is about mutual trust & understanding. But it seems your partner cannot understand your feelings re, how you truly feel about his regular visits to the pub. And do you trust him enough to, at least, cut down those visits or even take you with him. I go a pub, just round the corner from my work but they also serve food, soft drinks, tea & coffee with my Lunch there!
One thing learnt from my work is no-one is totally trustworthy but thats where you come in. Are you saying he prefers/depends on the pub more than you?
If your answer to that is "Yes" then ......!
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To be honest, he talks with me about it whenever I feel uneasy, which is a lot. He is open about what he does, and he I think only reads the paper or watches sports. I am always welcome to go, but it's just not my thing. I guess I can get coffee with him sometime. And I don't think he prefers the pub more, I think it's just a part of his routine of detoxing after work. Nothing ever suspicious happens, and it's a strange adjustment after a lot of disasters. Maybe I'm just being negative. He really is one of the kindest people I've ever met. If I have to tolerate alcoholism to be with this guy, I will. Thanks again for reading, I was just very frustrated about it at the time. Really, you have no idea the things he tolerates with my illnesses. I trust him deep down, I just, act like a child every time he goes out. What can I do to change my behavior?