Appearing aloof is the only way I know so far to reduce my self-consciousness in public. When I repeat to myself that I do not care, I feel less scared when I am exposed and alone in social situations. It helps me staying in an active position and can avoid being rejected. I don't know if I am ready to risk exposing my vulnerabilities at this point. I used to try too hard to please other people, and when I still got rejected I would feel very shameful.