Ok... here's a copy of the letter I sent him: (Both for you and Sky to read.)

John,

Yeah, you’re going to hear from me, too. As your mother, it’s my responsibility to tell you where I think you are failing as a man and as the son I raised. Your dad and I learned early on as children that promises are to be kept, not broken; that our word is to be honored by the person that speaks it and that a commitment is written in stone. We brought you up believing this way and expected you to behave this way as much as possible.

This set of beliefs isn’t to be abandoned when a person leaves their childhood home. It’s a value that should be carried throughout ones life. A man is only as good as his word and your word to us, your parents, isn’t any good at all. By your actions, you have proven to be an untrustworthy man. The wind bends you in whatever direction it happens to be blowing, just like grass. A man shouldn’t be bendable. He should stand strong like a mighty oak. The values he learned as a child both from his parents and from his religious upbringing should be carried in his heart and his conscience throughout his lifetime.

As a grown man with a family and a job, you should no longer have the expectation that Mom and Dad will bail you out of whatever trouble you happen to find yourself in. If you wish to become a self-sufficient, honorable, mature man, YOU need to take the reins in your own hand and see that your family works towards that goal in unison.

Your dad and I have bent over backwards to help you because we know that you took on your role as family man way too early. The problem we are finding, though, is that there is no movement forward from you. We keep making “loan” after “loan” with no thought as to when or even that we’re going to be paid back in money. The money your dad and I have is supposed to last us the rest of our lives. There is no way to get it back or to replace it. When it’s gone, it’s gone. Up until now, we didn’t mind helping you out because we still had some hope that you would come through and at least do some work for us in return for what we’ve done for you. But it appears that you only mean to take and not return in any way. In some circles that is called being a “looter.” You take emotions, money, energy and never give anything back in return. That is expected from a child, not from a man. These expectations are healthy and normal in any adult relationship, even between simply friends. The concept is as simple as “learning to share.”

Because I love you,
Mom

Pick away.