I`m going to sound like a real *** for this but my sister was murdered by her husband almost 20 years ago. I have never shed one tear or anything. Never been to her grave site, except for the day of the funeral. I have no desire to go. My dad died around 3 years ago. Big deal. We didn`t speak for the last 10 that he was alive. Now, it has been quite awhile since I have spoken to my mother and it stems from my childhood. I just don`t care. My sister was the one that always got in trouble, I kept my nose clean. She was always the favorite. Guess I`ll burn in hell but I don`t believe in that either.

But as others have said, it may just take awhile to sink in for you. Everyone has a different grieving process.