I'm still a couple decades from menopause, but I also have a male T and have also recently gone through the hormonal wringer of pregnancy. He was very open to talking about it -- I do think it makes a difference that he was male, but overall, he's your T and should be able to talk about whatever it is you're going through. And whatever he can't comment on, he should be assisting you in finding support for.

I do get that you don't want to challenge him if you guys are generally having a hard time. Been there. But, I really don't think this should be overly challenging -- if it is, I'd kind of question his usefulness to you.

I can tell you that my mom went through a LOT mood-wise during menopause. She and I struggled an awful lot during that time, and were fighting constantly (which, although she and I are often at odds, it was really only during that time that we FOUGHT). So it's not out of the question, at all, that it's affecting your mood. (Things are about a million times better between us now that she's past it.)

I do have a female pdoc who is only a few years older than me, so she is often both well-educated medically on women's health, plus she has the personal experience . You could always think about seeing a female T who specializes in women's health, if you think that will help you, just temporarily to talk about this stuff.

Finally, I've found this website to be very helpful: https://womensmentalhealth.org/speci...usal-symptoms/