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Old Jan 28, 2016, 05:11 PM
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I think you're right but I don't know where to find someone to fill the void. Maybe I am not comfortable.

I can empathize (feeling lonely, wanting to connect with someone who is special to you). I'd caution against seeking someone to "fill the void." I don't know your situation, but growing out of an abusive household has left me feeling the void intensely. When I was younger, I struggled to fill it with anything that would help me stave off my loneliness, emptiness. For me, I've found I needed to fill it myself. I read somewhere (think it was in DBT, and I'm paraphrasing!), it is sucks what happened but as unfair as it is, I'm the only one who can fix it (therapy, meds, taking care of myself, finding things that interest me and make me feel fulfilled).

Not to preach to you (perhaps too late!), but perhaps by seeing your own value and finding the things you love and enjoy will help with the void.

Again, sorry if sounds like a bad lecture. Take care
I recently made a list of "who I want to be", qualities I'd value if I could become them. Not only that, but I hope to see them in others, too, and surround myself with those people. Thanks for your warning, I'm glad things are better for you despite your past, and appreciate your advice from the outside
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