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Originally Posted by Walking Man
I'm finding that I'm starting to shut down and not tell my therapist what I think. I'm getting to know her and anticipate what she will say. So, if I expect her to respond in a way that makes me feel unsupported or frustrated, I avoid talking about it.
It's not that I'm afraid of telling anyone, it's that I don't want to get all worked up, put it out there, and then feel unvalidated. Even if she's totally right in what she says, I need more support in the way she says it. If I had to put it simply I would say that she's tends to "correct" me rather than help me see things in a better way, or to cope more effectively. A lot of what she says boils down to "you can't tell the future", "you don't know why they did that", or "it's best to accept things." Well, yes, maybe, but that doesn't help me feel any better. I'm so frustrated. I want so bad to have someone I can talk to that is warm and caring. She's too businesslike and goal oriented. Seeing someone else isn't really an option right now.
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How long have you been seeing her? Are you reacting to her in any way that you might have reacted to someone in your life? Did you ever feel 'corrected' by someone when you needed to feel validated? One can experience negative or positive transference. What you wrote made me think of how I reacted to my T when I was first experiencing transference. Just a thought...