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Old Jan 28, 2016, 07:45 PM
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I'm so sorry. That is really frustrating.
Not all therapists are the same, and it may take a while to find the right one. But since seeing someone else isn't really an option right now, what if you were to try telling her how you feel about the way she is responding to you?

I once had a t that felt much more like a coach than a t. It got to the point where I shut down and stopped talking to her. Then one day, I made some really bad decisions that led to bad consequences that she was bound to find about about. The next session, she literally yelled at for not telling her. Sitting there listening to her I got so worked up, my face was beat red, I burst into tears and told her exactly how I felt about the way she was doing therapy. It was an incredibly tense session. I told her exactly what she was doing that made it so hard for me to talk. She got defensive at first, but by the end was willing to work with me to help make it better.
Our relationship was never the same after that. It changed for the better.

Sometimes ts can be very predictable in what they will say, and how they respond. But a lot of times, the important part of therapy isn't necessarily what they have to say in response, but the fact that you are talking about it and not holding it in anymore.

It can be really rough to have a t who is maybe not the best fit, but stick with it, my dear. You will overcome.
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Thanks for this!
Walking Man