Oh, Walking Man, that sounds really hard. It sounds like your T is of a CBT bent and is being a bit overly blunt with it? Do you think you might be able to tell her you need a warmer and more compassionate approach?

My therapist is very easy to talk to and he always makes sure that he doesn't try to impose his interpretation of events on me. I find his style of working so helpful and it's helped me so much in being able to stop being so self-critical and unkind to myself.

What you say reminds me of what Paul Gilbert says about why he uses compassion to deal with shame -- he developed compassion-focused therapy because he noticed that some of his clients with high levels of shame didn't feel any better from just understanding their negative thoughts - they needed to develop emotional resources as well - basically a sense of compassion for themselves. (There's lots more about it on the web, but here's one article What is Compassion-Focused Therapy? - Harley Therapy? Counselling Blog)

I hope that you might be able to talk to her and that she will adjust her style.