A friend just shared a piece he wrote about the day his wife died. She was ill for a year and then had a messy traumatic death. How do people survive life sometimes? I am going back home to say goodbye to my dad and my friend has offered to come with and support me. That will be okay with love present. I guess, my husband walking out on me after 27 years is okay too with love. You can love people when they just can[t step up to the plate of life. This is almost the hardest thing to do, to forgive people that just aren't strong enough to love you. My mom still won't come to the phone even though my dad is dying. Even she, deserves love and compassion, as do I who used to be so angry at her.