Not really, as far as I remember, the reasons in the past were always more or less emergencies. Until this one, where it feels more like this: if I would react bad, it would feels as if I'm trying to prevent T from participating in the fun thing. (Also why I feel bad she tells me the reason actually). Feels a bit like emotional chantage.

And maybe I get this wrong. Maybe T feels comfortable enough to trust me with the reason and to talk to me. Maybe she thinks we feel comfortable enough to reschedule if that fits better with our other plans. Thinks that flexibility should come from both sides. I absolutely don't know. But I don't think T would hurt me is she knew she would.