Can't agree enough with argonaut. The worst time my T and I had was working through a rupture where I realized she's just one person. Even my friends who were parents found themselves sometimes ambivalent toward their children that they clearly love with all your heart because love and care taking is SO much work.

One of the things that helped me especially with the limited aspect of our time together is to realize that the emotional intensity and intimacy we share is NOT something that I as an introvert am capable of maintain ing myself for more than a finite period of time. I feel an hour is too short. We compromised. I occasionally ever other month or so when her schedule allows get a two hour session. And that helped me realize unlimited T time would not work.

As far as how I know she cares....she is genuinely present. She remembers my story. She laughs and gets emotional. She SAYs she loves me, is committed to our work, etc etc. I don't think you can fake that.