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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile
You know, I think this is really good advice. It's a lot easier said than done to just take people at their word, but I think therapy is a good place to practice that. It's been an important part of my therapy, personally. You'll drive yourself nuts if you worry too much about what people "secretly" think, whether they mean what they say, try to read their minds, etc.
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I agree with this. I honestly don't think most people spend a whole lot of time worrying about whether someone is telling the truth about caring; we just kind of take people at their word and unless something happens to prove otherwise, that's good enough. Since you know this isn't really about whether the T likes you or not, but really about whether you are likeable enough, whether you are worthy of really being cared about, it's good to remember that no one will really be able to change those doubts in your head except yourself. My husband has this issue and has finally learned to remind himself that the issue is really more in his head than it is in reality, and instead of constantly asking for proof of caring, he may say things to himself like "I'm having one of those moments where I feel unloveable, but I know all evidence of consistency and support shows the people around me do care even when I'm having trouble feeling it for myself."