I used to think like you @Divine but after being sexually assaulted,harassed,and getting overlooked for opportunities and men getting revenge on me because they felt I rejected them,etc,sorry I think women do have it harder and to think otherwise is naive. Women have more pressure to look attractive,are more likely to get attacked,are physically weaker,are looked down on for having success,etc. There's far too many things i've had to deal with that are unfair because of being female but there's perks,too and I've been learning how to be more ok with being feminine and let a guy think he's right,and so on so it's less of an issue. There's tons of sexism in this world. I do agree men have it harder in some ways and a lot of pressure but overall,women do have it harder,no doubt about it. I can't even go certain places that males can and to say that men have it just as hard thinking about that sort of is ridiculous. Trust me,i'm the first person to say driving is a choice,do what you want. That's partially why for years I didn't drive. BUT,he is obviously feeling hindered by it,and would be able to do so much more with HIS situation if he drove. However,maybe i am being too controlling with my own projections of how he can best better himself. If I lived in the suburbs,I would have learned to drive by now. As for the other stuff you said,i'll try to respond to it all. Well,I have old-fashioned relationship ideals and gender dynamics,so we will have to agree to disagree on that. I like guys who are providers and I like guys who take care of me. It turns me on to see a guy bring me something to drink,clean up little messes I make if i spill something,speak up to the server for me,ask questions for me,things like that. The last guy I like did that. Even in my own place,he got up and brought me drink and did the dish without me even asking or saying he was going to. I know some of this is just old school,maybe some of it is weird. It is just what i'm used to. Everybody has a right to what makes them happy,though. I do work,though. I have an amazing resume. You are right,I am too judgemental on my brother,but it is fear for him. I just worry about his future. I want him to be ok,you know and so I have my own ideas on how he can better himself so he can be more ok.

Men,I have described,I don't remember which ones,but they all are doing pretty awesome for themself. I know no matter what happens they would be always be ok. My brother,though I worry. He makes threats when he gets worried my dad will kick him out..i mean,that's not sustainable. He is so afraid. Cheating,or being a jerk doesn't say anything about someone's ability to be capable or manage in the world. My brother cheats too and is a jerk,too. Your daughter sounds like she is doing great,but again,it's her choice and she is doing fine,whereas my brother,it seems his life would be much better if he had a liscense and worked on getting a car. For him,and his life. I know lots of people who don't drive. Hopefully,that makes sense.