(((((Carrie)))))

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. We are both actually talking again, so I'm pleased and very relieved about that.

We've both decided that we want the relationship to continue, but in order to do that, we both needed to communicate on a very deep level and that means being completely honest with eachother which I think we were. He has this great fear of loss and is feeling very inadequate right now, hence the jealousy. He has very low self-esteem from years of verbal abuse from his wife, she is not a very nice person and has no compassion whatsoever. I've spoken to her on many occasions and I can honestly say I have never known anyone so hateful and callous. She has repeatedly told me that she wants to destroy him and she seems to be doing an excellent job at that.

I'm glad I gave him the space he needed, and I love your idea about the flowers Carrie, I never thought about that.

We've both agreed that the Neurontin isn't doing him any favours so he is trying to come off that. I have to admit that I've definitely seen a change in his behaviour since hes been taking that stuff. It just isn't agreeing with him.

Thanks for your advice. Youre a sweetheart for replying.

Gez