I think sending her this convo is a really great idea. It says alot...

Relationship balances are so fragile...so fragile. When one is experiencing something, the other is as well. When life causes one's role to change, the other's role has to change as well and the entire apple cart is upset for a while...allowing for "spillage" all over the place.

That goes with all relationships, I think. Right now, there are HUGE changes in almost all my relationships because of what has gone on, and is going on, in my life. It has me nervous and out of sorts. Because of that, and in response to me and my necessary distance (because i'm adjusting and busy), the entire relationship balance has changed in most all of them.

I've had ppl ask me anything from, "Are you upset with me," to "I've been concerned for you," with some just giving me space while knowing it's been rough.

Change and distance can be so hard on relationships because I believe there is a VERY DELICATE balance. Think of singing a duet...it's not a solo for sure, but for the song to work and be the best it can, both performers as well as their voices must be predicted, known, and heard. If one is hoarse, there's no good duet. If one is not there, there's certainly no duet. If one is there, but their voice is compromised, the duet as a whole is affected. Sometimes I've not even shown up for practice lately. When I was there, my voice was tired and hoarse...

The thing is in reality not often (except with professionals) are the two voices both top-notch, in prime condition, at the very same time. However, if both are present, practicing and taking up the slack for the other throughout the performance can still make for a heck of a duet.

I can be so difficult. I just wanted you to know that I do understand.

KD