[quote=Chyialee;4896938]Dechan, so sorry this poison-pal popped into your life (temporarily, I trust) and dredged up all those negative feelings. Been there, had that -- literally would be sick to my stomach & vomiting after. Person in my case was also a relative, and after I finally cut her loose fo good, all I would have to hear was her name and it could cause all manner of aftershocks. I had to take her power away, yanno? You've done absolutely the correct & healthy thing by sending this ex-friend out of your life with a bug in his ear! Go you!!

Our stability & emotional safety is far too valuable to jeopardize via input from toxic folk. We have to choose ourselves, and our sanity, no? xxoo Chyia, thumbsup!![/qute]

Beautifully stated. I guess I had a chink in my armor and he slipped the sword in. Been watching too much Game of Thrones.

Just surprised at how much suffering arises from contact with a toxic person, even just a phone call. He is gone for good. Now I am going to really be so much more careful to protect myself. I heard a good quote the other day. It said, "Life gives you a sword and a shield. Use them appropriately. Don't be bullied."

Yay.