In my opinion, there is nothing inherently wrong with you, but you could benefit from trying to accept the fact that if your boyfriend is going to cheat on you, then there is nothing you can do to stop him. But most importantly, him choosing to cheat on you is NOT your fault and does NOT mean that there is something wrong with you. It means there is something seriously wrong with him. If he wants to be a deceitful liar who can't man up and doesn't respect you enough to break up with you BEFORE he decides to have sex with someone else, then he does not deserve you!

I was in a relationship much like yours and I always thought that he cheated on me because I wasn't enough for him and so I ended up becoming very jealous all the time. But I had every right to be! He would not stop cheating on me! Yet, he would profess his love for me after every time I found out he cheated, so I would forgive him. But he didn't love me. He loved the fact that he could do whatever he wanted and I would still be loyal to him. It was a completely dysfunctional relationship and it was literally causing me to become this insanely jealous mad woman.

After wasting 2 years of my life, I finally decided that I have had enough of the fights and the constant emotional turmoil and I got rid of him. Now, almost 8 years later, I still have moments where I think that there is something wrong with me when a man treats me poorly or cheats on me or lies to me. Then I realize that I have done nothing to warrant such behavior and I stop blaming myself for other people's behavior. You are NOT responsible for his bad behavior, so please try to give yourself a break.

Lastly, maybe try to find a better therapist. You pay them to help you work on your issues and to provide support, not to make you feel worse. It took me a long time to find the right therapist, but it was completely worth it!

Never forget that you deserve nothing but respect and kindness from the person you're dating. And if you are being mistreated, take it as a lesson learned and move on! There is someone out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated and who will truly love you unconditionally. Sometimes it just takes awhile to weed through all the idiots to find that someone.

Stay strong!