I like to think I'm doing okay, but I was molested by a stranger when I was about 10.

Long story short, I remember him being pretty cool and wanting to talk to me. I think that this actually causes me to react aggressively toward people who are basically friendly. I hadn't thought about it much until recently, but I've been attending a new church, and have gotten something of a bad reputation for being mean to people (at least that's the way it seems). People are reacting badly to me, and basically complaining in vague ways.

I don't know whether to write off the church because people don't address the real issues, but rather deal with them in passive-aggressive ways. Or if perhaps I should let people know I'm damaged and that I do hurt others because of the trauma I experienced. I'm usually pretty composed, so I suspect people may have a hard time seeing me as someone who is a victim himself.

Can anyone else relate? What can I do in the present situation (I've gotten a bad reputation), and what can I do to prevent further problems (how can I get rid of this fear - how can I stop being mean to friendly people?) Am I describing symptoms of PTSD? And should I tell people about my issues?