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Originally Posted by Khione
My grandma isn't sick or in need of care. My mum goes there to play games on my grandma's PC. She goes because she can't cope with work and we've been on bad terms lately.
Thanks for your reply.
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question... in the event that you and this boyfriend had moved in together what would you have been doing while he was in his college classes, while your boyfriend was working.
reason i ask is you seem to be upset because your mom isnt spending time with you and you dont have anything to do other than sitting in the living room depressed...
going to be a bit blunt here... you have a dog does the dog walk him\herself, Im guessing you take the dog for a walk for his potty business and his exercise. Im guessing you dont just sit there watching for 8 hours this dog playing by himself. ...
my point yea its depressing to have your boyfriend go off on his own, and that your mom has her own routine. but you are 18 or almost 18, here in america when someone turns 18 they are treated like an adult, adults dont need their moms to stay home and not go visit other relatives. just go to work then come home to their daughters and sons who are now adults.
the 18 year olds I know are proud of the fact that their parents go off and leave them alone. it says their parents trust them and know they can take care of their self.
here where I am when a parent leaves their 18 year old home alone with the family pet that 18 year old gets on the phone, watches a movie, walks the dog, eats, go hang out at the local library. coffee shops, hit the malls and stores, even if they have no money they go just to see whats there and if anyone they know is there to hang out together. they get a job if they havent been accepted to a college yet. some babysit or house sit for a neighbor who may need some help, they volunteer with community agencies...
my point most 18 yr olds that I know treat the time mom isnt breathing down their necks as if they were living on their own...
you can still do all those things you planned on doing when you were going to live with your boyfriend, only difference is you will be doing it all on your own like other adults do..
suggestion next time you are out walking the dog take time to look around your neighborhood, I wouldnt be surprised if theres more to your town then just having to sit in your living room.
yea its sad that your boyfriend had to go off on his own but you do have options, and the time between now and when you can see him again will go much faster if you found something to do with your time.