Ok, I re-read my letter to John and now I'm possitive I didn't mention his wife and her family. The dishonesty, manipulation and cancelling out on his commitments IS something he gets from his wife, but I didn't say that. I don't think I need to. He can judge for himself. Ok... that's me.

As for what your dad is doing, I've witnessed that and been the receiver of it. My mom hated my ex and blamed everything I did wrong or she THOUGHT I did wrong on him. Basically what your dad is doing to you. It only served to drive that wedge between HER and me, not my then boyfriend, later husband. It used to hurt me so much! In retospect, there's nothing I could have said or done to make her stop. The really scary thing is, that now I can see everything she said painfully clear. She was 200% correct! The only saving grace from that union are my two oldest kids. I lost my daughter to her father's mental illness, but my oldest son is my rock. He never lets me down on special days, he bought me this little tin can I live in and he keeps tabs to see that everything is going okay with me. What would I do without him?? (sigh!) Ok. Enough of that.

ARGH! Frustration!

Thanks for being there for me, Hun. You got through to me where others might not have. That's special.

Love ya!