So I am going to meet my boyfriend's son. How did I end up in this situation? I am 51 and feel like I am nine years old. My boyfriend's wife died only a year ago, after a year's illness in which he took care of her. We found each other because we are both really gentle. I wanted to find out about someone who was grieving because I felt like I was grieving too but since I was divorced I didn't feel like I had permission. Then we both really felt like we wanted to feel alive and happy and we work through all our feelings with just giving each other space and listening. I hope this is okay with his son, it might be hard for him to understand.