Wow, if no one else has said it, I will, "you are a terrific friend." I too have a history of doing for others, without acknowledgement. It gets old especially when you yourself are not doing well. It's time to let others help out. I hope he is able to stay in his apartment but it's not your fault if he would be better served in a facility. And who know...maybe it will be a good fit for his mental health?

Compassion fatigue?

You're awesome!