Me, and what I think. For years while married, I was hell to live with for my wife. I finally got diagnosed at age 61, and for the first time placed on medications that worked then, and now. I was told to give up alcohol because it would, and does interfere with the medications I am on. At the same time I gave up smoking cold turkey. Before seeing a psychiatrist for years, I self medicated on alcohol, and some pot. That's not uncommon when you have not been diagnosed yet. I would suggest you give up all drinking. I also turned over all the bill paying, and all money management to my wife. Stopped me from spending it first, and any fights over the money. Takes work in many ways, but it will be worth it.