He has TOLD you he isn't going to change. So, what do you want to do with the rest o your life? Yes and the above poster stated....I would get my finances in order, etc., see an attorney (does'nt mean you have to divorce) ...see a therapist....ALONE, to figure out what to do.

This is verbal abuse. So, does he express himself that way with others? I will bet not, because they would call him on it. He does it at home, because there are no consequences.

What he is doing is called the "Honeymoon Phase." it will never end. Did you know that with verbal abuse alone, it can cause all kinds of illness? You are being physically hurt as well as your children. He keeps you around with his ambivalent behavior; when he is nice is very nice and when he is abusive he is horrible.

It is a nightmare merry-go-round. I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal abuse.