Thanks RxQueen875. My dx actually improved our situation a bit as it validated her view that my judgement was off...but she still is really hurt about the drinking. I'm hoping couples therapy will help us.

I should mention I haven't drank in over a year...and before that it was every six months TOPS and only 1 night when I did drink.

I've been replying to most posts but my posts are getting held for moderator approval. I appreciate everyone's comments and advice and wish my responses were getting to you quicker!