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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I don't know if I'll do it every year. I hope not. My T said we'll see whether or not this turns out to help me or hurt me. If it helps and I want to, then I'll do it next year. But I might not want to. Maybe I will no longer be hurting then.
I feel like this helps me because it gives me a voice. It honors my feelings and what I experienced.
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You can still have a voice and honour your feelings without contacting your former T.
I personally feel like you are jeopardizing any action being taken against your T if you continue to contact her. Think about how it would look from the outside. She could totally play "I'm being basically stalked by this client, even a year later" if you continue to contact her.
I know you won't want to hear that, but I hope maybe you'll be able to see it from a different perspective.
You're going to heal, Scarlett. You don't have to heal only by continuing to interact with your former T. I bet it would be really healing for you to uncover why you feel the need to still connect with her instead of putting space between you.
It's hard to walk away, especially when leaving wasn't our choice. I wonder if you have ever considered looking at what you can do to look beyond the termination instead looking back on it?