Hi Rainbow, does this relate to your post last week? I didn't reply to your post last week but part of it really chimed with me as I had just realised that sometimes when I talk to my T I talk in a way to her that is quite cut off from her (because I'm afraid of judgement). This means that she can't soothe me or help me with her responses as I'm not totally present with her. Is this what your T is talking about? Is she trying to encourage you to be more present with her so she can support you?