My private therapist has an integrative-relational approach, and says that her work is all about the "relationship" with the client. Yet she is very much a blank slate. I know next to nothing about her. The only thing I know about her private life is that she is married and has two sons, and I found that out by accident when she showed up in my "people you may know" on Facebook. I clicked on her name because I didn't recognise it, and realised immediately that it was my therapist's profile and that she was using a nickname + initials for her surname in order to prevent clients from finding her profile. I let her know that my Facebook had found her anyway, and told her it was probably because she has her phone number or email listed in her information and that Facebook picked it up from my list of contacts (it did freak me out when I first clicked on it, though, I was like, HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS FACEBOOK! HOW!). We had a good laugh, and she said she would change her privacy settings. She did seem a bit unsettled by it, however, which I'm starting to think is due to her wanting to keep her "blank slate" to the point where it bothers her that I even know she has a Facebook.

Not sure if it is related to this technique, though. She isn't psychodynamic. And I don't really understand the purpose of it, because it's not like she's trying to encourage transference of any kind. She keeps herself at a distance. She isn't cold, far from it, but she never talks about herself. I guess that's why I don't feel particularly connected to her, because she never shares anything with me.

She has been very supportive and helpful about sorting out my feelings for my uni therapist, though. I can tell that she really disapproves of her sometimes, though she chooses her words carefully, always, and mostly manages to stay perfectly neutral. However, at times I find her neutrality quite frustrating, because it makes me feel slightly "lost" somehow. I actually appreciate opinions, it helps me to get other people's perspectives on things, but often she seems completely impartial and I don't know what to do with that.