My pdoc actually brought it up with me when I was in my 20s. She told me that I should know that she would support me if I ever decided to go through a pregnancy but that in my case she would advise against it because I am never stable anyway and having to be off meds would mean frequent and long hospitalizations, a high chance of post-partium issues, etc. But she also emphasized that she gets women through pregnancy frequently if that is their choice. I had to have a hysterectomy at 35 and she again made sure I knew that before the surgery if I wanted to take my one last chance she'd support me. It turns out that I was never going to get pregnant anyway because I had deformed tubes and some other problems but it was not a choice I ever tried to pursue because I knew that I personally with my lack of stability would not be a good parent, much less a single parent which the pre-hysterectomy pregnancy would have been.

Like someone said above it gives me a very special connection to my nieces. I was afraid when my sister was pregnant the first time that it would be too painful to bond with the baby and then she was born and it was amazing. One of the biggest motivations in going through the dramatic treatment I'm facing in the next few days is to be able to spend more time with my nieces and enjoy them more. I've been too sick for a year which is sad.