I had a similar family dynamic. I developed colitis in junior high school and was in the bathroom constantly and couldn't eat and was losing weight. My dad would yell at me and complain that he couldn't stand to hear the noise I was making in the bathroom all night. He would make me go to school every day and every day I would get sent home sick sometimes so weak I was unable to stand. My mom was mostly silent on the whole thing.

I figured out later in life that my dad was a manipulative man who told lies to make people feel sorry for him... As excuses for not completing jobs, for not paying bills, etc. His complaints about me were a way for him to solicit sympathy from others. I once caught him lying about my current condition to someone as an excuse for something he didn't complete and that's when I realized his game plan.

I don't know what is going on with your family, I'm certainly not saying it is the same thing without knowing you or them. But to point out it may be something with them but it is definitely something in them making them treat you this way.... It may simply be fear coming out as an opposite reaction as a defence mechanism.

So without being able to know or control what is going on with them all you can do is make sure you do what is healthy for you. Keep an open mind about your meeting and if they cannot do anything look for another avenue. Many types of help are available, and the depression makes it hard to want help let alone seek help. That's where I am right now. But please keep fighting and keeping well and seeing help.