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Originally Posted by Starry_Night
My t and i spend a good deal of time talking about daily life. She always asks me questions about work/ family/ pets/ etc.
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Thanks, Starry.
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Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99
I don't get why you wouldn't. Therapy should help with daily life. If you're having trouble coping with situations in your life, I don't really see what would be more immediately important.
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The problem is that I don't discuss these things; I just want her to know about them. I talk without letting her sag anything. I don't feel connected to her when I give her my "report" and soon the session is half over but I feel like we haven't even started.
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Originally Posted by AllHeart
I find myself wanting to tell my t everything but I never have the courage to do it. I recently realized it's because I have been silenced my whole life -- first by my csa abuser, and then by my parents (wasn't allowed to talk about anything really). So since early childhood I've been forced to be secretive. Not in a sneaky sense, just unable to talk about anything to do with me. Now that I have someone who actually gives a s**t about me and wants to listen to me (my t), I want to tell her things that go on during the week. Just haven't figured a way how to do that.
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I'm sorry. AllHeart. Did you try writing things down and giving her the paper?
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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
Is the problem that you want to talk about everyday life and worry there isn't enough time/you worry you should be working on something else/you worry T is not interested OR that you are chattering about random stresses to avoid talking about something else?
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There's never enough time!! There used to be when I saw her for 90 minutes. I could see her every 2 weeks for 90 minutes but I like weekly sessions. But it's also that I ramble on and don't stop so it's not really helpful. Her stopping me and asking me to "settle in" is more useful and that's what she wants me to do at the beginning of each session.
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Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl
I feel like that every single week and I've been seeing my T for a year. For the past few months though I've to been way more stressed and last week I was able to tell my T a bit of it because I was having anxiety attacks almost everyday and at one point it got extremely bad. I haven't really told T other things that I want to talk about and theres like a list of 10 things. It feels horrible to keep them all in but I've been like that my entire life.
I think it's good to talk to T about daily life because it helps you out with releasing the stress and getting the help you need.
I just have to learn how to take my own advice :P
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Thank you, AnxiousGirl. I hope you can learn to confide in your T.
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick
I always want to tell my T about my daily life. During my sessions I talk about whatever is going on that I am struggling with or having a hard time coping with. I feel like I never have enough time to tell my T all the stuff I want to. There are times I do tell her about my daily life, especially when I am really struggling.
I also think its really good to tell your T about your daily life that way they can see how things are for you on a daily basis and might be able to help identify the stress and what triggers it.
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I agree. I think it's just that I don't connect with my T when I talk so much.
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Originally Posted by AwakeMySoul
I tend to have the opposite problem of not knowing what to talk about and clamming up. We've talked about it though and she's patient, but I always feel bad like I'm making her job difficult, but my mind really just goes blank and I don't know what to say unless she asks me a direct question. So goes the journey...
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I hope it gets better for you.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
I can relate!!! With CBT T he tends to like to get to the point and he cuts of any rants and rambles of mine but sometimes I need to just get it out. He is trying to be flexible but I can tell it is hard for him.
Can you ask your T to let you get it out for the first 10 minutes of your session? That keeps it contained and gives her time to respond?
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That's a good idea but I just keep talking even when she tries to stop me. Usually, not always.
Thanks, growly.
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Originally Posted by Suraya
This is me, too.
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Than you, Suraya. I'm sorry you find it difficult.