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Originally Posted by Loco4
Hi Bixkf
As a non-heterosexual myself I can empathise with the disliking of labels. I prefer to look at sexuality as a spectrum with heterosexuality on one end and homosexuality on the other. We are all unique and labels just don't work.
If it's a title for your sexual preference you are looking for, it may be helpful to research the definitions of LGBTIQ. I also should add pansexuality, which I think might interest you. Pansexuals identify as being attracted to anyone of any sexuality and gender identity. Much broader as bisexual it encompasses differing gender identities as well.
At the end of the day remember it's your sexuality and it's you who ultimately needs to be comfortable with it. Announcing to the world that you are gay and previously had an active homosexual lifestyle, but you love your wife, isn't going to magically change anything.
Sounds like you need to work on your own comprehension and comfort level of your sexuality. If you and your wife are comfortable and happy with it, then who cares what everyone else knows/thinks!
Good luck!
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Loco4,
Thank you so much for your response. I recognize that coming out might not have any major impact on my life or might not change anything...but as many gay people have stated that once you're out, there's no going back in the closet. I've had anxiety for 30+ years over my sexuality...and it has to stop. My mind is letting me know that a toll have been taken inside my head, and that it can't keep going as before. Sure I could keep taking the medication I've been prescribed, but there are significant side effects and then I'd be living an unnatural lie.
I also wanted to say that I am very secure in my sexuality...I know I'm gay, I was before I met my wife, I have been while we've been together and I will be until I die. BUT, even being gay...I am attracted to this ONE woman...I do love her. Perhaps I grew to love HER...perhaps I grew to or learned to be physically aroused by HER. Those feelings are real...they exist and are demonstrated all the time. Does it matter that if it weren't for this ONE "HER", that it would be just "HIM" in my life....no it doesn't matter. I chose to be with her and I am committed to her...even if the whole time I am gay.