Notz,

My hopes are that nothing really would change other than a more deeper acceptance of my sexuality and a personal willingness to express my identity. I can't tell you exactly what that means, but I no longer want to live a life where I have to make a decision as to whether I disclose to someone I'm gay. Many times I listen to co-workers or friends make derogatory comments against gay people. I do mention sometimes that people can be offended but that never stops the comments. I would like to be comfortable to say that I am offended because I'm gay...and that it hurts.

Perhaps its as simple as a bumper sticker, or a rainbow flag, or walking in the pride parade. You see, none of these acts or assertions directly affect my love and attraction to my wife and my family. Sure other people will talk or question...they will talk out of confusion, ignorance or hate. I've been facing that for 30+ years, at this point in my life I need to be able to face it honestly and truthfully, and hopefully with the love and support of my wife and family. I have been loving and supporting my family for two decades...selflessly, without question. Now it's time for them to love and support me....without question. I don't think that it too much to ask.