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Old Feb 04, 2016, 12:46 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
People here may wonder about my not apparently grieving for my H. I'm sad for him but feel a freedom I never had. It is what it is. Just don't want comments about him as I feel guilty about my feelings.
It is quite the opposite for me. Remembering things you have shared about him over the years, your sense of freedom makes a lot of sense to me. Feeling sad for him while also feeling a bit of relief at being a bit unburdened seems quite logical. I can also understand how you could feel guilty about that reaction, although I do not think you need feel guilt about it.

I also do the reporting thing in therapy. Not so much about daily details, but I blather on about whatever I have already figured out, and give him no time to respond. For me, I need to find a way to share my current problems and shut the hell up and connect with him and let him add input. That is a work in progress for me, so I am finding this thread helpful.
Thanks for this!
rainbow8, unaluna