As I have been with gf for 27yrs. and watched her worry as one more female family member, succombs to breast cancer. Her mother enduring for 14yrs.(without pain meds),after radical removal of cancerous tissue, and the chemo and radiation.
GF and I moved home 7 yrs before her passing. And the last year gf quit her job,to be with her mom as much as possible.Right up to the day she died,,,and gf was holding her hand as she took her last labored breath. Then told her father ,"she's gone".
Now 18 months later gf has reason to worry of the family history that knocks on her door. And today I felt that which I did not want to face again in her life,,major lumps in her breast. This was important to her for I use denial as a general rule in life.
I hope for the best,and dread the worse.....As now she trys to sleep,all the while tossing and turning. Earlier I gave her the soft and reassureing touch and the words and tears that naturally follow.
I post this in hopes that if she reads it she will know to come here and gain the support of the wonderful people that visit this sight daily ,for just that reason,,,,,,support.
Wish me luck in guiding her here ,and the kind ear she needs, when I can't be here for her .
Thank You,
(wmd)