The only way to see if someone is a good match for marriage is to date them for a while before marrying them. Marriages, as I have found out, are easy to get into, but really tough to get out of. Take your time, and don't just rush into marriage. I have been dating my boyfriend (my first relationship since my hubby) fir going on five months. I couldn't be more pleased with the fact that we are getting along well, but realize that it is way to soon to say the vows. Dating a man is not platonic remember, it's a way to determine compatibility. Pain from it may occur. You may open yourself up to a person that isn't right for you, but if you are going to play the game, you must be ready for the pain.